PERKAWINAN ADAT MERARIQ DAN TRADISI SELABAR DI MASYARAKAT SUKU SASAK

Authors

  • Hilman Syahrial Haq Fakultas Hukum Universitas Muhammadiyah Mataram, Jl. KH. Ahmad Dahlan No.1, Pagesangan, Kec. Mataram, Kota Mataram, Nusa Tenggara Barat
  • Hamdi Hamdi Fakultas Hukum Universitas Muhammadiyah Mataram, Jl. KH. Ahmad Dahlan No.1, Pagesangan, Kec. Mataram, Kota Mataram, Nusa Tenggara Barat

DOI:

https://doi.org/10.30742/perspektif.v21i3.598

Keywords:

Suku Sasak, Merariq, Selabar

Abstract

Merariq sebagai tradisi perkawinan adat di masyarakat suku Sasak ternyata menyimpan potensi konflik yang tidak jarang berakhir dengan sengketa, karena diawali dengan peristiwa memaling atau mencuri atas dasar persetujuan si gadis dari kekuasaan orangtuanya, sebagai wujud sikap ksatria sekaligus bentuk keseriusan si laki-laki untuk menikahi si gadis. Namun di tengah kelemahannya ternyata sistem merariq telah menyediakan sarana alternatif penyelesaian berupa pelaksanaan negosiasi antara perwakilan pihak calon mempelai laki-laki dengan keluarga calon mempelai perempuan yang diistilahkan dengan selabar untuk menyepakati pembayaran ajikrame dan pisuke guna menuju perdamaian para pihak.

Merariq is a customary law of marriage in Sasak society, this Merariq turned out to potentially create conflict that is commonly ended up with a dispute. The reason is because it begins with the events of rob (steal) on the consent of the girl approval from the power of her parents. The rob (steal) be done as a form of chivalry of the man’s seriousness marrying the girl. But amid that weakness, Merariq has provided an alternative dispute settlement by the process of negotiation between the representatives of the prospective groom to the bride family, which are termed selabar to agree on payment ajikrame and pisuke towards peaceful relationship between the parties.

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2016-09-30

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Vol. 21 No. 3 (2016): Edisi September

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